tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10001181.post2371463205331576383..comments2023-09-08T02:25:01.918-06:00Comments on momumo: are you more parent or more friend?momumohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13651235570309411691noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10001181.post-37959343509955514062008-07-27T10:32:00.000-06:002008-07-27T10:32:00.000-06:00I think if I ever want to be my child's friend, I ...I think if I ever want to be my child's friend, I first need to be their parent. Right now we're heavy into the parent stage, with occasional burst of friendship. And that's appropriate for right now. They're little kids! I think my parents were more parents until I was well into college, though we were also friends. But now we are definitely more friends than parents, and I think that's because they were parents first. Interesting topic. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10001181.post-83865691331374933702008-07-25T14:52:00.000-06:002008-07-25T14:52:00.000-06:00Good topic! And still they insist on continuing th...Good topic! And still they insist on continuing the previous argument. Wow. I knew men were sensitive about their penises (believe me, I suffered more when my husband got snipped than I did with childbirth -- oh God, now the vasectomy activists are going to attack!) But, Holy Cow!<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I've thought about this and I think it is hard to be a good parent if you aren't also your child's friend. As you said, not a peer type friend, but a friend that has some common interests (even if you have to work hard to find them) and someone they know they can confide in and depend on. I know a few moms who brag that they are the "Parent" and never a friend and those are the ones whose kids sneak off and hide things from them. I'm not so naive to think my kids tell me everything, but I know they tell me most things (and everything else I pick up with mommy radar). Hell, even my older son's best friend confides in me. Of course, if he were doing something illegal or dangerous, I would do something about it .. but he's not and I think it's important that there is an adult type friend in a kid's life, especially a teen's.moosemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325057678505364197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10001181.post-52872455582348808922008-07-23T13:33:00.000-06:002008-07-23T13:33:00.000-06:00What a great post--and you are totally on the mone...What a great post--and you are totally on the money with the kind of friend that you want to be with your kids. If you are a peer, you are considered an equal, and therefore, have no say in their decision making. I want to be someone that my kids can have a good time with, be silly, confide in, but also know that I am the parent and therefore, the decision maker. I think if you rule by fear, or intimidation, your child will never trust you or confide in you, and what kind of a relationship is that? My kids know who the fun parent is, but they also know that they have to listen to me. For some reason, though, I doubt if those anti-circumcision guys will be here to read this post, because it's not their 'thing'...baseballmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02415788553050331818noreply@blogger.com